When faced with difficult circumstances, we are quick to criticize and assess other people’s behavior, words, and emotions. We act in this manner because we believe that if we were in their position, we would respond differently. You can never truly understand how the other person feels until you’ve been through something similar yourself. We have compiled a few things you will never understand until it happens to you.
12 things you will never understand until it happens to you
1. Difficulties in achieving dreams
You may condemn other people for not being able to realize their dreams for years. Once you try to realize your dream, you’ll realize that your goal requires a lot of free time, internal resources, material investments, etc.
2. A hopeless situation
Suppose someone tells you about a situation from which there is no escape. In that case, you may express sympathy for them, encourage them to accept their situation, or look for potential solutions that you believe may be of assistance to the person who told you about the plight. However, unless you put yourself in their shoes, you will never fully understand what they are going through.
A feeling of hopelessness is the only thing that can force you to think outside of your comfort zone and extend your mind. You will no longer criticize other people, their words, their reactions, or their actions because you will realize that when individuals are in the direst of circumstances and are under the most intense amounts of stress, everyone behaves in their own unique way. There is also no point in speculating what actions you may take if you were in another person’s position.
3. Unwillingness or inability to integrate into the culture of the society
Because of both their outer and their internal uniqueness, some people have trouble communicating effectively. They are not accepted, rejected, condemned, and ridiculed by society, which makes it difficult for them to integrate into society. They frequently experience feelings of isolation since they cannot identify with true friends and are awkward whenever they are in the company of others.
Suppose you ever find yourself in a scenario where you cannot find your place (this might be a workplace or your new acquaintances in another city to which you have recently relocated). In that case, you will have difficulty dealing with society’s rejection.
4. Losing your best friend
Whether it’s a betrayal or the divergence of your life paths, getting over the loss of your best friend who has been there for you during your most difficult moments in life is very difficult. You will realize this when out of habit, you want to share some funny situation with him or ask his advice, and you realize that you will never be able to do that again.
5. The loss of a loved one
Instead of trying to console your family and friends or listening to their concerns about the end of their relationship, you could try to look on the bright side of the situation and remind them that they will have many more opportunities for relationships in the future and that they will quickly forget about the end of their past relationship.
There is a good chance that you will continue to experience this reaction until you have personally overcome the loss of a dear one. You won’t quite understand the magnitude of the emotional toll it takes on someone who sincerely cares for their partner but is not yet prepared to let them go until you go through the experience of losing yourself.
6. Fear of stepping out of your comfort zone
Everyone quickly becomes used to the good things, and we don’t want to return to an uncomfortable situation. When you tell other people to break out of their comfort zone, and you honestly don’t understand why they are so hesitant to take a step toward change, you forget that you will, at some point in the future, doubt the choice you made to change the course of your life dramatically.
7. Difficulties in the occupation you adore
You could be under the impression that people who go to work each day for a job that they adore never get worn out, struggle, experience burnout, or consider leaving the company because they are sick of the constant pressure. This is not accurate at all. A work that you enjoy doing brings with it an additional layer of responsibility. You go through difficulties but don’t talk to anyone about them because you’re afraid they’ll judge you. The people around you will likely respond badly to your discoveries, poking your nose into the fact that you wanted to take this road yourself and that you should be glad to fulfill your goals.
8. Disappointment in a dream job
A great number of people dream about having a particular job, view it in a favorable way, and imagine that it is exactly as it is shown in films or written about in literature. But as you go deep into your employment and start taking a realistic look at things, it’s possible that you’ll come to feel really unhappy in the decisions you made. You have resolved to put an end to your feelings of jealousy toward your friends and acquaintances, as well as the concept that their work is faultless.
9. The moment you realize that you have committed a major mistake that you will never be able to fix
Every day, we are guilty of making a few harmless mistakes. Because they can be fixed so simply in the future, many people choose not to fill their heads with pointless worry over them. But when it comes to significant mistakes, which are already difficult to fix, the person often becomes befuddled, and fear sets in. He can blame himself for committing certain behaviors for a long time. This is because it is already impossible to correct the mistake.
If you make a mistake that cannot be rectified, it may cause you to feel guilty and self-loathe for years because it will always be a part of you.
10. Losing your best friend
Whether it’s a betrayal or the divergence of your life paths, getting over the loss of your best friend who has been there for you during your most difficult moments in life is very difficult. You will realize this when out of habit, you want to share some funny situation with him or ask his advice, and you realize that you will never be able to do that again.
11. Grief
When people are going through great grief, it is very uncommon for them to cut off communication with their loved ones for some time, lose the capacity to control their emotions, and begin abusing alcohol and other similar behaviors. Do not be too quick to pass judgment on them; at this point in their lives, they are going through a challenging period that an individual who has not gone through something similar will not be able to understand.
12. Cohabiting with a person for whom you have no affection although you are together
Things come up in a person’s life, and it’s not unusual for them to find themselves unable to feel the same way about a person they once believed they loved more than life itself. If you were to view this kind of circumstance from the outside, you might get the impression that there is nothing wrong with it. You can live together as friends, lend a hand to one another, or stick together for the sake of your children.
You will feel all of the feelings that overpower a person daily who continues to be near someone they no longer love if you ever find yourself in a position like this. However, if you ever find yourself in a situation like this, you will feel all these emotions.
