You can provide yourself with absolutely clear goals within your reach and then pursue those goals with excitement. But after a while, rather than carrying it through to the finish, shift your attention to something else. Consequently, you already have many things that require your attention, but rather than finishing any of these tasks; you add more to the list.
Keep in mind that it is far simpler to begin anything than to finish what you have already begun. To prevent yourself from giving up everything halfway through, you need to learn how to regulate yourself and your emotions and how to deal with unanticipated challenges that drain your motivation. We have compiled a list of the various obstacles that stand you from reaching the goals you have set for yourself.
1. Put less value on the work you do
You may confidently move forward with the execution of any one of your ideas and invest all of the resources you have available to you. However, this does not ensure that you will feel content with who you are and the achievements that arise from your hard work. Even if everyone around you is going to praise your energy and celebrate your achievement in accomplishing your goal, there is still a chance that you will be biased in your evaluations.
You can get the impression that you are not accomplishing enough, such as wasting too little time, not attempting to work as hard as you could, or progressing too slowly. Your ideas may become so silly that they border on the ridiculous; for example, you may punish yourself for deciding to take a break or criticise your job because of an incomplete result. And most importantly, no matter how far you go, you will never be good enough no matter how successful you get.
This process is known as depreciation. You are always looking for reasons to be dissatisfied with yourself rather than being glad for yourself and your successes and looking forward to accomplishing the goal in the not too distant future. You are the one who sabotages your motivation to do something, which in turn causes you to become frustrated while you are working, which in turn leads to your decision not to finish what you have already started.
2. Attempting to ensure that everything is perfect
The striving is counterproductive to productivity, self-confidence, and the will to engage in any work at all. If you are a perfectionist, you want everything you do to be perfect; you set a high bar for yourself, which is most of the time impossible, and you berate yourself for not being able to accomplish it.
Your excessive self-criticism and high expectations, neither of which can realistically be satisfied, will, of course, have a negative impact on the quality of your work. As soon as you acknowledge that you cannot accomplish what you want, you will find that you lack the motivation to engage in any activity. However, falling short of the target would not help find a solution to the issue. You need to overcome your desire to perform everything to the highest possible standard and resist the urge to give up in the middle of what you’ve started.
3. The motivation to stay out of other people’s business as much as possible
The desire to not be involved in obtaining a certain goal can be partially attributed to perfectionism, which is the belief that no one will be able to handle the task better than you will. This leads to a lack of trust in the people around you. You might be concerned that you’ll have to correct the mistakes made by another person or expend a significant amount of additional resources on managing another individual’s work. You may also find it challenging to request help; rather than going to a third party with a request, you will make an effort to do everything on your own until the very end.
Regardless of the motivation that drives you to pursue the achievement of your goal on your own, the fact that you do so poses a significant barrier to your ability to finish what you’ve started. It’s possible that you won’t have enough time, energy, knowledge, or skills at some point in the future. Master the skill of delegating at least some of your responsibilities to other people, and resist the urge to say “no” to offers of help.
4. No deadlines
Your failure to establish a concrete deadline for your task is a significant error on your behalf. At first, it might appear to you that there is no reason for you to do this; the goal appears straightforward to you, and you anticipate achieving it in the not-too-distant future. But eventually, once your self-assurance fades into the background and you discover that everything is not as straightforward as you thought it was, you will feel disappointed.
Engaging in a goal that cannot be contained inside a particular time frame will use all of the available time on your schedule. You are going to put as much effort as you can into getting to your destination. In addition to this, there is a significant possibility that you will delay taking decisive action since you would mistakenly believe that you have a significant amount of time remaining.
It is important always to set a deadline for your work, regardless of how simple or unimportant the task may appear. The presence of clear deadlines is your guarantee that you will not give up on what you have started halfway through. You eliminate the possibility of having a startling awareness that you are running out of time.
5. The practice of always coming in first
It is very common to begin working towards the desired objective simultaneously as another person while simultaneously harbouring the hope that you will be the one to arrive at the desired result first. But, alas, your expectations of reaching a leadership position are not always realistic. Other people may have much better conditions for quickly achieving results than you do. For instance, they may have certain knowledge and skills which is much higher than yours; additionally, they may be able to deal with challenges more easily and have more free time.
Stop viewing the process of working towards the goal as a competition to see who can get there first. If you look at the process in this way, you run the risk of never getting any closer to the thing you dream about having. It is best to focus on the end goal rather than getting caught up in the quest for speed.
6. The fear that you will let yourself or others down
You can give up in the middle of anything if you’re afraid of disappointing yourself or other individuals who are aware of your plans. Your aspirations and expectations and the hopes and expectations of others can have a significant impact on your self-confidence. Because of the persistent anxiety and tension that you are experiencing, you may come to the conclusion that you do not want to reach the goal that you have set for yourself, even though you are very close to getting the desired result.
There is only one way out of this predicament, and that is to fall further and further behind. You should make an effort to ask this question more frequently: “What will happen if I really fail?” It’s not a big deal, but the solution will surprise you. You won’t turn out to be a terrible person as a result of this, you won’t lose the people you care about, and you won’t get the reputation of a loser. It will be a fresh and helpful experience that you can carry with you into the future and use to avoid making the same mistakes again.
