When you start a relationship, you do it with the best of intentions. You are in love, you feel on the same wavelength, you start making big plans. In short, even in perspective, everything looks rosy.
The truth, however, is that some life events can lead to a relationship in crisis. The two partners do not recognize each other for how much they have changed, the needs and desires change, and the child’s arrival upsets the balance.
In short, many reasons can lead a couple to experience moments of misunderstanding, estrangement, disinterest, and, in the worst case, even falling out of love.
However, if you have come to this article, it means that you are aware of the moment of crisis that your relationship is going through and that you do not want to give up. You have every best intention of saving the relationship and being happy with your partner again.
How to save a relationship: 5 tips
When a couple experiences a moment of crisis, they must be aware of the reasons for the crisis. This, as we will see better shortly, is the first point on which to start working.
At the same time, however, you need to be aware that saving a love affair doesn’t mean hitting the “replay” button and starting over. The reconciliation that is being sought can only come about by making changes and questioning oneself as individuals and as a couple.
Therefore, saving a relationship means “eliminating” what did not work before, leading to unhappiness, quarrels, arguments, and any other negative situation.
Understanding the crisis
The first thing to do to save a love relationship in danger is to understand (both individually and with the partner) what are the reasons that led to the crisis.
To search for solutions, you must first identify the problem. And therefore, it is necessary to stop and reflect on what did not work and make you happy, which led to estrangement. For example, did you start taking yourself for granted, and the passion faded? Have you been betrayed or disrespected? Did you let yourself go physically, and he lost interest? You smothered her with jealousy, and now she’s gone away?
Problems can be different. In any case, they must be understood and resolved to remedy the crisis. However, this does not mean that you will only have to dwell on what was not working to save your relationship. The key will also be to recognize, value, and further strengthen what already unites you and makes you happy together.
The importance of addressing your partner in everyday life is often overlooked in a relationship. You say what you think at the moment, without stopping too much to reflect and bring out negative words and feelings, which hurt the other person.
In short, paradoxically, sometimes, one is kinder to strangers than to one’s partner. Therefore, the way you talk is also crucial to feeling good and balanced within the relationship.
To this is added the communication relating to the crisis itself, which must be as transparent as constructive. To save a relationship, both partners must be actively involved and with the best of intentions.
Therefore, it is necessary to talk to each other with affection, kindness, and sincerity, looking for a dialogue that can be constructive and, at the same time, become meaningful for the rapprochement. A very useful technique for improving communication within a couple in crisis is, for example, to write letters to each other.
Forgive mistakes made
When you intend to save a relationship in crisis, it is very important to avoid living with the past. In a relationship, you can make several mistakes, and, unfortunately, sometimes you suffer them.
This discourse, therefore, interests the partner who has been wronged or who has been disappointed much more. If you want to save the relationship, it is necessary to let go of what happened, approaching a speech of forgiveness.
Turning the page on a wrong received is not easy, and, even in this case, there must be a lot of collaboration between the two partners. Those who have made a mistake must put themselves in a position to be forgiven, and those who have suffered must undertake not to remain hooked to the disappointment suffered.
Leave space for each other
Sometimes, to find yourself even more united than before, it is first necessary to take a step back. For example, if your partner does not cooperate, seems willing to end your relationship, or demands more freedom, you should give him space without putting any form of pressure on him.
This does not mean giving up but allowing each other to find their balance and identity even outside the relationship. If you too take advantage of this difficult time to enrich your life and pursue your interests, both of you will recharge your energy, and you can soon find yourself much more attracted to each other.
If you are still together, the whole process should be done with total respect for the other person without further damaging the relationship.
Spend quality time together
In addition to giving each other space, it is also important to find profound moments of sharing to cultivate the sentimental, affective and loving part of your relationship as a couple, definitively saving it from the crisis.
In this phase, it is very important to find oneself sharing moments that can produce positive and engaging emotions, making the two partners feel very complicit and happy.
To do this, on the one hand, it will be necessary to live daily life differently, but on the other hand, also to introduce new things into your relationship, to do new and out of the ordinary things. All this could be an important factor in emotional rapprochement.
Overcoming crises is never easy, but with the best of intentions, it is possible.
However, there is one very important aspect that needs to be taken into consideration: time. It has most likely taken you and your partner months (or maybe even years) to get to this moment of crisis.
Therefore, please don’t pretend that things can go back to the way they were overnight. It is necessary to act with love and intelligence, but also having the patience that time can show you that you are doing it.
To save a relationship, there must be intention and desire on the part of both. However busy he may be, a partner alone will not be able to “restore” the relationship.
And here we go back to the subject of communication: it is important to understand and know what is in the other person’s mind (and heart). Only in this way can we find ourselves united in trying to improve the situation.