It is a very challenging task to admit to yourself that one’s life has no value and that one is only wasting the time that they have been given on meaningless pursuits. After all, if you are honest with yourself, you must do some real work. You must reevaluate your core beliefs, change your negative attitudes and destructive behaviours, create goals for yourself, and then work on accomplishing those goals. This long and challenging process often calls for a significant investment of time and energy.
Because of this, you choose to indulge in self-deception so that you may persuade yourself that everything is normal and that everyone around you conducts their lives in the same manner as you do. We’ve gathered a few signs that you’re bored and have no personality.
1. You are not sure of the destination you are heading to
Because you don’t establish goals for yourself, either big or small, you don’t have a clear idea of the sort of life you want to live. You are just going ahead and do not know what is in store for you in the future. You do not have a plan of action, feeling disoriented, and it is very difficult for you to choose between the available options.
2. You spend a lot of time with people who disagree with your beliefs and principles
It’s terrible to be surrounded by people with whom you have nothing in common. It is quite unlikely that you will have anything interesting to talk about if you and the other people have different perspectives of the world, different values, and different priorities. There is a good chance that the only thing you have in common is the need to pass the time in some way. With each other, the only thing you can do is have fun; personal growth and advancement are out of the question. And if any of you decides to move on, to improve his life somehow, the “friendship” will end as soon as that decision is made.
3. You are not growing as a person in any meaningful way
Think about who you were many years ago, and then compare it to the person you are right now. If other than in terms of your looks, you haven’t changed at all over the last several years, it’s safe to say that you haven’t evolved or progressed as a person. When you put yourself in unfamiliar situations, educate yourself on something new for the first time, or interact with people who cause you to reconsider how you feel about a certain topic, you acquire significant experience. You may use it to increase your knowledge and abilities, cause you to reconsider a lot of things, and cause you to change your viewpoint
4. You’re jealous of the people around you
Happy people, or people moving toward their goals, usually don’t waste time and energy with envy. They are quite happy with their lives or realize things are about to get better. If you do not attempt to change anything about yourself or your surroundings and just put up with your dissatisfaction, it’s not surprising that you feel a lot of envy. After all, someone else is doing well, and in the meantime, you don’t know where to go.
In addition to envy, you may excessively criticize those around you, devalue their merits, and try to impose your pessimistic view of the world on them. You do this to somehow level up with the person: to prove to him and yourself that he is not doing anything unique, that he is no better than you, and there is no reason for him to be jealous.
5. You spend money on things you don’t need
Because of boredom, you may spend your earnings to buy things you don’t essentially need. It’s not like you’re planning for your future, which means you have no reason to put money aside, invest it, or save it. You live for today, indulging your momentary desires and buying what everyone else wants.
6. It’s hard for you to make choices
When you know what you want and want to get, it’s easy to choose. You compare the two scenarios and choose the one closest to you. If you do not understand what you want from the other person, your work and your life in general, it won’t be easy to decide. Most likely, you will take a long time to make even some minor decisions and then worry for a long time about whether you did the right thing or not.
7. You quickly burn out
If you cling to any opportunity to occupy yourself with anything out of boredom, your constant disappointment in new hobbies, work and acquaintances is absolutely logical. You don’t analyze your preferences; you don’t figure out if you need it or not. Instead, you go along with whatever is offered to you. As a result, after a short time, you realize that you have wasted your time and energy, and you quit halfway through.
8. You do not plan your future
When a person is aware of the goals he wishes to accomplish in the future, he is capable of creating an actionable plan. He can easily prioritize the items on his to-do list and make choices that will get him closer to realizing his goals since he is aware of what to do with his professional life, hobbies, and personal life. If, on the other hand, you don’t plan your future and want to avoid thinking about what is ahead of you, then there is nothing for you to work for. You probably haven’t given much thought to who or what you want to be in the future, which is why you find yourself stuck in the same situation.
Avoid procrastination in this matter; it is preferable to begin assessing your preferences as soon as practically feasible. The more you remain in one location, the more attached you will get to your comfort zone, making it increasingly difficult for you to break out of its boundaries.
9. You have no idea what to do with yourself and your time
Another clear sign that you are experiencing boredom is when you find that you are at a loss on how to spend your spare time. After a long day at work, you go home to take care of domestic issues before settling in front of your phone to check social media or watch some videos for the rest of the evening. You have no interesting hobbies, don’t develop yourself or your skills, and don’t put any of your ideas into action. You don’t understand what more you can do since you don’t do any of these things. Your whole existence is unending and pointless.
10. You’re seeking reasons to justify your actions
It’s possible that, on some level, you’re aware that you’ve been wandering for a considerable amount of time while experiencing extreme boredom. However, you look for excuses rather than going ahead, establish a goal for yourself, and start making changes in your life. You may persuade yourself that, in general, everything is OK, that you satisfy all of your requirements, that you are not alone, and that the majority of the people around you live their lives the same way, regardless of how false these beliefs may be.
The making of excuses will not assist you in accepting aspects of your life with which you are unhappy. In any case, you will have the impression that you do not belong, and you will be disappointed with how things are going for you. This, if left unchecked, may, over time, lead to more significant issues such as chronic stress, anxiety, and depressive illness.