Happily ever after is how people in relationships try to think. To achieve this, you need a real unity of souls and thoughts, which you both should work on. How to find this synergy in a relationship – read in our article.
It is simply impossible to build a harmonious and happy relationship without it. Moreover, it is necessary, to be honest not only with the girl but above all with oneself. As for the first one, everything is quite simple: don’t lie. You go out with your friends – don’t come up with sudden deadlines at work, burning asses of colleagues and bosses, but tell me straight out that you are planning to relax in a purely male company (and yes, if you say so, then make sure it is true) and you will come back late or even in the morning. In that case, calm her down and convince her that she can go to bed without you.
About the second: sincerity towards yourself and your feelings. If you realize that the chosen one does not suit you, and you cannot accept it, then it’s not destiny. Don’t try to convince yourself – it’s useless. Don’t get euphoric in the early stages, when all you’re interested in is s*x. This will pass, and in between sets, you will need to do something else. If you understand that you do not feel yourself in her company or feel some discomfort, do not promise the girl love to the grave. It would help if you were sure that you would be able to give it to her.
Of course, everyone who is in a relationship has to sacrifice something. But it is essential to maintain balance and not engage in opportunism – this way, you risk losing yourself and completely dissolving in your partner. Usually, women suffer from this more often, which they bitterly regret afterward, but there is such a misfortune among our brother.
He promised to take her to the movies – lead her, but do not do it to the detriment of other moments of your life. For example, at the beginning of the week, you and your friends planned a Friday trip to the sauna, but suddenly on Thursday, your mistress declared that you needed to go shopping with her tomorrow urgently. No, it is not necessary – shopping can be postponed to the weekend. Being in a couple does not mean that you need to forget about the usual things for the sake of a relationship. Healthy selfishness is normal. But only healthy, do not confuse.
No matter how strong your feelings are, you don’t need to overdo it. There is no need to demand systematic reports on her movement, and it is also not worthwhile to arrange scenes of jealousy from scratch.
Total jealousy signals not so much about the insincerity of your partner as about your lack of self-confidence and complexes. Tell yourself that only boiled eggs are cooler than you, and she is very lucky with you, and she will instantly let go. In addition, girls, like guys, hate restrictions – we are all individuals, after all.
Of course, you always need to keep an eye out, especially if there have already been precedents in the form of unexpected meetings with an “old friend” or even more so with an ex. In other cases, relax and try to trust your woman. Trust is a useful thing.
Courage to solve problems
Escapism is never good, especially in a relationship. Having escaped from the problem once, you will surely face it again; only now will you face a much larger knot of contradictions and mutual claims than before, and it will be much more difficult to untie it.
You should not suppress the negativity in yourself and close your eyes to all sorts of unpleasant little things; since then, they will begin to overlap each other, and you will no longer remember how the conflicts began.
Maintaining a healthy microclimate in a relationship requires the courage to face challenges, not run away from them. The best way to do this is to have a calm heart-to-heart conversation, where everyone listens and hears the interlocutor.
This is one of the most important aspects of a happy life. It is because of a lack of attention that all conflicts, betrayals, and partings often occur. It is naive and stupid to hope that the relationship’s roughness will be smoothed out by sex. You’ve probably heard sometime about the candy-bouquet period. So, at the end of it, do not forget about sweets and bouquets at all – give them with or without reason, just as a sign that you appreciate her and do not take her feelings for granted.
Take the girl to the cinema, parks, exhibitions, cafes, and restaurants; do not forget to hug her when watching movies together; ask how your day went, and remember to talk after s*x, so she doesn’t feel like she was being taken advantage of. Hug and say something nice. And don’t forget about the flowers.
People tend to change with age and sometimes lose those inherent qualities a couple of years ago. And this is completely normal because we carry time in ourselves, and, as you know, it does not mean standstill. At the moment of meeting, you know about each other only what you are now and what you will be in a few years – only the Universe knows.
And these metamorphoses can come as a surprise, so you need to learn to accept them. Just like accepting your partner’s flaws, Nobody is perfect, and trying to change someone (especially if this someone is a long-formed person) is a senseless and dangerous business. Only to understand, and if necessary – to forgive and reconcile. As the saying goes, “humble yourself and relax.”