A group of people is constantly unhappy with themselves, whether it be their physical appearance, personality, or perceived flaws. They cannot forgive themselves for their mistakes or to accept responsibility for their flaws. Instead, they constantly put themselves down with negative thoughts which are their biggest allies. They engage in self-deprecation.
It should come as no surprise that such conduct never ends well. Consequently, the individual stops respecting himself, his self-esteem wanes to an all-time low, and the others around him start to treat him the same way that he treats himself. If you find that this description fits you, then you need to consider the goals you wish to achieve through taking such acts. If you don’t care about your mental health and are willing to give up on your life, then continue doing what you’re doing.
If you cannot prevent yourself from thinking unfavorable ideas about yourself, you are setting yourself up for several unfavorable outcomes. We have included a few reasons why it is important for you to control your thoughts and avoid focusing on the negative aspects of yourself.
1. You will be afraid to make decisions
Of course, the worse your opinion of yourself, the harder it is for you to make minor decisions. Because of the lack of confidence in themselves and their abilities, fear of failure and the fear of being criticized by others, you will procrastinate. The constant worry that you can do or say something wrong will make you stay in your comfort zone, avoiding any changes.
Along the way, you’ll feel even more disappointed in yourself, which will only increase your anxiety. So to take control of your life, you must learn to trust yourself. And to do that, you must first stop negative thoughts about yourself.
2. You will become dependent on the opinion of others
When you don’t realize your own worth, you begin to look for its confirmation in others. It becomes crucial for you to know that other people approve of you, your words and your actions. Over time your desire to be liked, accepted and praised turns into a real dependence on other people’s opinions.
From the moment the words and opinions of others matter more to you than your own, you stop living for yourself. Instead of doing what you want to do, the only goal you will seek is to be treated well by others. And the worse you treat yourself, the more you want to hear nice words from those around you.
3. Your thoughts are material
What you spend most of your spare time thinking about will likely materialize in some form or another. Consider this: if you spend a lot of time worrying about something that other people tend to view as a weakness in you, you’ll likely become more aware of that weakness over time. This will directly result from your obsession with hunting for evidence that supports your worst thoughts. Your brain will inevitably find something to cling to determine cause and effect relationships and demonstrate that you are, in fact, correct.
In general, the more you look for defects in yourself, the more you find them, as contradictory as they may appear. The more you look for problems, the more flaws you find in yourself. At first, it’s possible that you won’t be able to find the flaws in yourself that you’re looking for. If you don’t let go of your fixation, however, you’ll undoubtedly become aware of them after some time has passed.
4. People will treat you accordingly to how you treat yourself
You have clarified that you want others to cease treating you respectfully, and it’s not hard to see why. When you cease appreciating yourself, those around you will start to treat you in the same manner. The actions of people who do not love and appreciate themselves are easy to spot because of how they behave. He is unable to accept accolades, make justifications for any praise, or speak negatively about himself, and he is afraid of saying or doing something wrong.
When people around you believe that you are dumb, weak, unattractive, or uninteresting, they are likelier to make jokes at your expense, give you patronizing looks, and offer unwanted advice. Nobody will bother wasting their time and effort trying to convince you of anything else. When you first meet other people, they will perceive you the same way you present yourself to them. Therefore, you should work hard to eliminate your unfavorable thoughts as soon as possible.
5. You will start to deprive yourself of the pleasures you like
Looking for faults in yourself is a waste of time because life is too short. You risk denying yourself pleasure if you are overly critical of yourself. You will have the mindset that you are not smart, interesting, or beautiful enough to pursue your goals, which will prevent you from enjoying life, hanging out with people you like, trying your hand at things, experimenting with your appearance, and enjoying the pursuit of your goals. If you spend too much time worrying about what other people think of you, your life will become increasingly mundane and uninteresting
6. You won’t be able to achieve your personal goals
It is doubtful that you will be successful in life if you underestimate yourself or if you give bad qualities and features of character to yourself. You have to have faith in yourself and your capabilities, and you can’t be scared to try new things if you want to realize your full potential. You won’t be able to tap into the untapped potential inside you until you are prepared to change how you feel about yourself.
You will never know what areas you could have succeeded in if you keep negative thoughts in your head, continuously criticize yourself, and minimize and devalue your achievements. When you stop and give it some thought, why not start treating yourself like you treat your loved ones and close friends? When people are supported rather than persecuted, they tend to disclose more of who they truly are.