Do you hate being in a social setting or opening your mouth? Then you may be suffering from something called shyness. And being shy can suck, but luckily for you, we’re here to help you out with 10 helpful tips to get more spontaneous and get over that awful shyness.
Becoming more spontaneous is easier than you think
If you are shy or suffer from shyness, then you know how annoying it is. Not only for yourself, but it also has a huge impact on your work, school, and other daily activities. Whatever your situation, you want to get rid of it, become more spontaneous, and feel like you can say whatever you want, whenever you want. This will certainly work with the tips below.
Step out of that comfort zone
Yeah, we’ll start with probably the hardest thing to do: step out of your comfort zone. And now you may think you won’t make it, but you can. Instead of taking on more than you can handle, start by setting a goal that you know you can achieve. Like wearing that shirt, you never dared to wear or smiling more at people you meet.
We want to say: start small, you know you can do it; you need that little push.
Shut off that imagination
One of the biggest reasons you hold back too much is your imagination. You make up whole situations about what could happen instead of what the reality is. “If I do this, they will think this of me,” stop it. Chances are, it wasn’t important to anyone but you.
One bad experience doesn’t mean your whole day is ruined
If something ‘bad’ happens one day, don’t let it ruin your day. Like we said before, it probably wasn’t that big of a deal, so you shouldn’t let it plague your mind with negativity. But get yourself back together and make something of your day.
Start observing others more
A useful thing to do is observe the people around you. This could be your friends, family, someone you know is also shy, or even just passersby. How do they react in certain situations? This can be very helpful in becoming more spontaneous and getting over that annoying embarrassment.
Build those social skills to become more spontaneous
If you’re shy, you often don’t have the social skills you need to socialize. That’s perfectly fine, but it’s not like you’re not capable of it. You haven’t had the chance to learn how to do it just because of your shyness. Basic skills include positive and open body language. Don’t let your shoulders slump, but open up to others with eye contact and a smile.
Start talking to strangers more
Talking to strangers is less scary than you think. So, how do you do it? It’s as simple as just walking up to someone and starting to talk. If you work out and go to the gym, you can start a conversation by asking someone about their workout or help. People always want to help others, and because you show interest in someone else, there is a good chance that you will get this in return.
Accept the fact that you are shy
One of the most important tips for dealing with shyness is acceptance: accepting yourself. Accept that it is not easy for shy people to overcome it. Like all feelings and emotions, being shy is okay and nothing to be ashamed of.
Eye contact can solve a lot
If you’re scared or nervous, it’s often best to face it. Look something or someone in the eye, and you don’t have to say much. This is a sign that you have your attention.
Fake it till you make it
Whatever you do, there will always be a feeling of nervousness. So fake that you have a lot of confidence and are more spontaneous than you are in reality. Pretending often is the easiest way to get over it. And after you’ve done it many times, it will also come easier for you to a point where you realize you’re not even pretending anymore. It just comes to you as second nature.
You can follow these tips, but you won’t see an improvement if you don’t stick to them. This applies to literally everything. So don’t give up and keep going; you can do it.