You probably know girls who, like a magnet, attract everything bad to themselves. And there is so much negativity in their lives that they are under stress all the time. What do you need to do to stop attracting negativity into your life?
How to stop being a victim of circumstance
Some tips might help!
Accept that you are a victim
In order to get rid of alcohol addiction, first, you need to admit to yourself that the problem exists. To stop being a victim, too, you have to start with a confession.
Many women do not want to realize that they constantly live in the role of the victim, and sometimes they even like it. Facial expressions, intonation and gestures can also indicate that you like it. Don’t you want to live like this? Go to the next step.
Start taking responsibility for yourself
You should not look for the cause of all your misadventures in someone other than yourself. Do not shift responsibility for your life to your husband, parents and children. Just pause to understand that only you are responsible for your thoughts and emotions.
It’s up to you how to feel in a given situation. And to stop being a victim, you first need to take responsibility for everything that happens in your life.
Whatever happens, know that getting rid of the victim state will not work right away. It will take a long time, so be patient and figure out exactly when you start to blame others and life the most. When you understand this, you can move on.
Respect and praise yourself for even your smallest accomplishments. Learn to support and encourage yourself. When you succeed, mentally say that you are smart, and everything will be fine for you in the future. Set achievable goals for yourself, and strive to achieve them, respecting yourself for your efforts.
Respond to failure correctly
Instead of despairing and continuing to live like a victim, see failure as good. Let this be a sign of fate for you and a reason to think about what should be changed in yourself. Think of them as experiences, not tragedies.
Defend your interests
Never forget who you are. Don’t complain that no one takes your opinion into account. Maybe you have no personal interests, and that is why no one is interested in your thoughts? You should not be silent and behave like a silent slave.
Clearly state your position on any issue. Start defending your interests and finally take control of your life.
Look at your surroundings
If you feel like a victim in a relationship with the man you live with or with your parents, then remember that it depends not only on them but also on you!
Talk honestly with your loved one, your parents, or friends. Express everything that you think so as not to accumulate resentment and anger in your soul. By the way, if you fail to find mutual understanding with a man, then most likely, this is not your man.
Don’t make a scene
Do not scandal with a man. Be calm and balanced so that you can have a normal dialogue. If there is no benefit from such communication, then make a decision about their expediency.
Don’t forget about yourself!
Never forget about yourself. If you are used to being a victim, then, of course, it will not be easy for you to change your life position. Try to do something for yourself every day. Make self-care a bit of a hobby! Learn to relate to yourself in a new way.
Watch what you say
Want to complain about life? Stop! Try to stop the whining flow every time you notice it. It is better to talk about something positive or funny and keep silent about the rest.
Thus, you can learn to live differently, eliminating all complaints and grievances. By the way, those around you will begin to think of you as if you were someone who can handle circumstances with ease.
Go in for sports
It will be great if you start with self-defence training. This will teach you how to take a punch and not run away from circumstances. When you feel that you have become stronger physically, you will realize that you are capable of much.
Unfortunately, no medicine can “cure” you. Work on yourself, take it step by step, and soon you will notice that life has begun to change for the better!