Do you ever feel lonely? You are not alone; almost half of the young people sometimes feel lonely. In part, this can develop into a fear of being alone(FOBA). We will tell you in this article how you learn to deal with this. In any case, remember: you may feel alone, but you are not alone.
There are more people with these feelings than you might think, and of course, Covid hasn’t helped with that in the past 1.5 years.
This fear of being alone is also called autophobia or monophobia, and it is often a phobia that creeps in slowly. You can certainly make the anxious feelings less by reading a lot about FOBA and focusing on the tips below.
Find a hobby that makes you happy
Often we are afraid of being alone because then we have nothing to do. We suddenly have to see ourselves enjoying ourselves, which can be exciting, especially if you don’t have any hobbies that you can do on your own.
Maybe you can get some inspiration from these summer hobbies. In any case, try something new so that you have something to do when you feel alone.
Call a friend
Don’t feel embarrassed to call a friend. Maybe he/she has the same issues, and it can be wonderful to vent and catch up. It doesn’t even have to be about anything; just hearing someone’s voice can relieve FOBA.
If you find it difficult to be alone because you are confronted with your thoughts, it might be good to look up those thoughts. Perhaps you will then find out that there is nothing to be afraid of, and you will put an end to your FOBA.
Meditating is one of the most common ways to get back in your head for a while. Don’t expect to meditate for hours straight away with humming music playing in the background. You have to learn to meditate. That search for yourself will be difficult, but in many cases, it can help get more peace in you.
Call someone you don’t know
Sometimes it can be nice to be able to tell your story. There are several safe ways to get in touch with people you don’t know. For example, you could contact the Red Cross Helpline, where you can share your story anonymously.
We don’t have to tell you, of course, but never give your contact details such as address and telephone number to someone you do not trust, and certainly do not put this confidential information publicly on the internet. Never. You never know whose hands they will end up in.
Seek professional help
Do you notice that you regularly suffer from your fears, and the above things do not help? Then it might be a good idea to seek professional help. Talk to your doctor about the options, and don’t be afraid to raise the alarm.