9 best self-help advice you’ll ever get

We all know it already. It also makes a lot of sense: love yourself before you can love another. Trust your intuition and listen to your gut feeling. But sometimes, it’s good to go over the points again as a small reminder to yourself. At times when you may not feel so happy or are just confused with yourself.

Be yourself

You often see it on tiles or pictures on Instagram, but the quote ‘ Be yourself, because everybody else is taken,’ is one to take seriously. It’s easier and more fun to be a first-rate version of yourself rather than a third-rate version of someone else.

Don’t take yourself too seriously

The next time you’re swearing at the car that cut you off on the road, or getting all stressed out by a stupid comment you made, stop and think about it. And most importantly, don’t take yourself so seriously.

Try to imagine how an outsider sees you sitting in your car. Screaming, screaming, red hot. You would think you were in the middle of a heart attackā€¦ but what is it all about? Relax, and laugh at yourself more often.

Now is the only moment you have

Cliche, but oh so true. Far too many people do not live now and are only concerned with ‘tomorrow.’ Stop a little more often, observe and enjoy.

If something goes wrong, it will be alright

You may feel like the earth is disappearing from under your feet when something goes wrong. If your crush suddenly loses interest in you, or if you lose your job.

But this pain, this sadness or this sense of failure will pass. As they say so beautifully in English: ‘This too shall pass.’

Nothing to prove

Sometimes, we think we have to earn our place on this earth like a computer game, and we have to win different levels. That you are only worth something: if you have that good job, that nice boyfriend or girlfriend or that beautiful Instagram feed.

But who are you doing this for? When is good, good enough? You don’t have to prove yourself to others. You are good enough just the way you are.

You have no control over anything

It is, of course, beautiful to pursue dreams and goals. But in the end, you have very little control over how things go. ‘Sure, you can study hard to get that good job, you can maintain your friendships by texting often, and you can be a sweet sister, father, brother or mother.

But, eventually, some things happen to you. Your sweetheart leaves you, a parent gets sick, or a friendship fades. The moment you let go of the idea that you have control over your life, you will get through the day a lot more relaxed.

On top of that, you certainly can’t control how someone else behaves. People ultimately do what they want to do, and there is absolutely no point in putting too much energy into this. Live and let live.

You’re doing just fine

However you look at it, this is your life, not a dress rehearsal. Try to relax, and most of all, enjoy the ride. It is such a shame to constantly think that you are not doing well enough or that you have to go the extra mile to become truly happy.

Celebrate your small successes and try to laugh at the mistakes you make. That only makes you wiser. Hop, get up, and on. You’re fine.

Everyone does what

Never be told you’re not doing it right or doing the “should.” Because the truth is, we’re all just doing something. Yes, including your manager or people in their 30s, 40s, or 50s. Life is one big puzzle, and no one has the last piece of the puzzle.

Always choose love

It may sound a bit sugary, but try to approach everyone with love. If someone is frustrated, it’s for a reason. You may find that person annoying, but try to approach this person with a smile.

It works with minor things, like not getting mad at someone who just awkwardly gets off their bike in front of you. Laugh about it. He didn’t do that on purpose to bother you.

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