Naturally, we all have a past in terms of relationships. It is often the case that the faces of your partner’s past “return” to the forefront somehow. See what to do if he is still bothered by his ex.
It has happened to us that our partner’s ex does not want to understand that he has entered into a new relationship. He continues to take advantage of events such as holidays, birthdays, or national anniversaries to call her or send a message on social media.
Composure! It is very important to manage the whole phase properly, so as not to lose it! Follow the steps we suggest to you to preserve your relationship and your peace of mind.
Pretend you’re cool
Yes, you read that right. Even if you are not comfortable, you have to pretend. Try to hide the extreme reactions when you get what his ex sent her. Do not start asking questions about what he writes, how they got along, if it was better, etc.
Men are tired of extreme and constant jealousy. Under no circumstances should you ask her to block him on social media, etc. The only thing you can do is show that you are insecure. The purpose is to respect your relationship on its own and to set the right limits yourself!
Aim for your relationship
Your main goal should be how to strengthen and beautify your relationship with your partner. Do not poison your beautiful moments by spending time talking about his ex. Even if you find out about her ex’s message, pretend he didn’t exist.
If he feels that she is having a great time with you and is happy, you will have the desired result. If, on the other hand, you grumble and swell at her, likely, she will not even confess to you from now on that his ex is still bothering her to avoid your outburst.
The steps I suggest above presuppose that your partner is sensible and manages the situation in the right way. Give yourself some time to observe her behavior while the ex is still bothering him.
If you see that she keeps the distances she should by answering him formally, we are fine. If, on the other hand, you see that she is not handling it properly, then talk to her. Explain to her how you feel. If she does not respect you despite the discussion, you should consider the possibility that she is also burning for the ex.